As a leader, you no doubt realize that one of the keys to having a fulfilling and enduring marriage is the ability to handle conflict resolution well. And, you know that in order to resolve conflict well you and the couples you lead need to have healthy communication in marriage. Over the years of working…
10 questions for healthy communication in marriage (Checklist)
Healthy communication in marriage is tough. As a marriage leader, teaching couples to have healthy communication is even more difficult. When you were a child, did you play the game of Telephone? Do you remember the premise for the game? The first person starts with a sentence or phrase, and then the phrase is communicated…
5 ideas for how to show grace in your marriage as a leader
How do we keep selfishness from becoming a major problem in our marriages? Here are five easy ways we can model grace in our marriages on a daily basis. Most of us might not admit it, but we’re selfish people. We put our own needs above others. We are usually thinking about ways our spouse…
How to solve the marriage crisis in your church
Our desire at Grace Marriage is to help you protect your own marriage and the marriages of those you shepherd. We talk with church leadership on a consistent basis and hear their experiences. In this post, I want to help you know how to solve the marriage crisis in your church. Make a difference We…
Always an emergency: blindsided by the marriage problems in your church
You know Lenny and DeeAnne. They’re members of your church. They’ve attended for more than five years. They’re a sweet couple who come to church every week, help out in kids ministry, and are a part of a community group. One morning you receive an email from Lenny asking if they can meet with you…
7 characteristics of a godly marriage
We are called, in our marriages, to point a watching world to Christ. In short, our marriages should not look like pagans. These are the seven characteristics of a godly marriage according to Scripture. The apostle Paul writes down instructions for what to we are to think and how we are to act in his…
5 marriage mistakes leaders make.
How does a good marriage turn into a bad one? Easy. The world gets to it! In case you haven’t noticed, the world is out to get your marriage. Actually, Satan is out to get it. He wants you to make these five mistakes. If he can get you to make these mistakes—he wins. I…
3 ways church leaders can equip the church to prioritize marriage.
I want to help you prioritize marriage. My last post was about the four stages of marriage that Brad and Marilyn teach couples and leaders. I promised I’d come back in the next post with more tips for you and the marriages you serve. This is me making good on my promise! Thinking through the…
The four stages of marriage. Which stage are you in?
Ask yourself this: What do you want your marriage—and the marriages you serve—to look like? Almost 18 years ago, my wife and I attended a marriage conference where we covered the stages of marriage. Thinking through the “stages of marriage” is important. Sometimes, we just need to take something that seems complicated and break it…
12 marriage books you should know about
As a church leader, you know recommending marriage books is tricky. Half of you will love this post and be inspired. The other half will hate it because I didn’t add your favorite book! What follows is my attempt to merge some of the popular marriage books from over the last few years with books…